When we are faced with problems, our normal human tendency is to get seriously focused and involved with the problem. We tend to continuously keep thinking about the problem and we cannot seem to get our mind away from the problem even for a short time. This, in turn, often triggers a whole lot of negative emotions in us, like anger, fear, sorrow, irritation, frustration, helplessness, angst and depression. And with these thoughts and emotions, we try to solve our problems, with varying effects.
When we are confused or upset, our thoughts are not in our control. Our thoughts become bizarre, often unreal or illusory, and tend to be scattered. As the pressure builds up in us to find a solution, that pressure also adds to the stress. In the midst of a problem, we often tend to be our worst selves, and find that our problem-solving capacity is at its lowest.
This happens because we become attached to our problems, and there is no distance between us and the problem. Being deeply attached to the problem is like going too close to the fireworks. It will most probably burn you. But if we are able to step back a little, we can really enjoy seeing the fireworks without having to get burnt.
Most problems we face are also like that. If we are too close, we get mentally and emotionally exhausted and burnt. But if we are able to introduce a slight distance between ourselves and our problems, we can definitely do a better job at problem solving.
Courtesy: Economic Times: 10072018