Is It Possible To Turn Hate Into Love
love and hate are very difficult emotions. They are really intimately connected because they em from the same source. There seems be a very thin line between love and hate. This is perhaps why, in many conflicts, whether at personal, ethnic or national levels, the worst conflicts are vays between people or groups who the closest. Family spats have been own to lead to the worst kinds of Olence. Religious disputes within a cular denomination or religion ild be much more severe than ween rival religions. Disputes ween friends and neighbours are likely to become more vicious than sputes between strangers. At first glance, it would seem that e and hate are poles apart, that they incomplete opposites, and that they we nothing to do with each other. But numerous incidents and events reveal that love and hate are closely interwoven. This is because they flow from the same basic human need. We all, as individuals, feel incomplete and alone. Fear can overturn everything; it could cause good people to do bad things and can cause people to lose good relationships. We should never let fear rule our lives. The little boy who screams at his parents, "I hate you," is, of course immature and has to be guided to a great extent by his parents until he learns how to make decisions, but once a child learns how to make decisions, the parents must respect his individuality unless he makes life-threatening decisions or decisions that will impair his future. To complete ourselves, we must speak, express ourselves and relate well with others and God. Since all relationships are dynamic, we must constantly work towards keeping them positive. Hatred comes when we overstep the bounds of each individual's personality or when we feel rejected. Merging-that is, forming close relationships-with others and God should cause us to enhance our personalities, and not to destroy them. When one party in a relationship tries to dominate the other and tries to destroy the other person's individuality, then hatred is the inevitable result. When personalities "merge", they must respect each other's independence and at the same time, feel one with each other. It is difficult to be close and distant at the same time, but that is what a good relationship is all about. It is also very ifficult to maintain a good relation when feelings of resentment and hastart to creep in and are allowed to taover. That is why we find that even infamilies, there are instances when siblings do not talk to each other, or former good friends will not even shhands because of a trivial incident tha pened in the past. In order to be successful in any relationship, each individual's view must be allowed to be expressed. We must be careful not to reject others foolishly, or try to dominate or try todistance ourselves too much from there care for, otherwise their love will turn to hate. Let us all hope and pray that all o relationships will befilled with onlylove and not hate because each of us learnt to respect each other.
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The views expressed in the Article above are Ezekiel Isaac Malekar views and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Ezekiel Isaac Malekar and Speaking Tree,Times of India
Is It Possible To Turn Hate Into Love
love and hate are very difficult emotions. They are really intimately connected because they em from the same source. There seems be a very thin line between love and hate. This is perhaps why, in many conflicts, whether at personal, ethnic or national levels, the worst conflicts are vays between people or groups who the closest. Family spats have been own to lead to the worst kinds of Olence. Religious disputes within a cular denomination or religion ild be much more severe than ween rival religions. Disputes ween friends and neighbours are likely to become more vicious than sputes between strangers. At first glance, it would seem that e and hate are poles apart, that they incomplete opposites, and that they we nothing to do with each other. But numerous incidents and events reveal that love and hate are closely interwoven. This is because they flow from the same basic human need. We all, as individuals, feel incomplete and alone. Fear can overturn everything; it could cause good people to do bad things and can cause people to lose good relationships. We should never let fear rule our lives. The little boy who screams at his parents, "I hate you," is, of course immature and has to be guided to a great extent by his parents until he learns how to make decisions, but once a child learns how to make decisions, the parents must respect his individuality unless he makes life-threatening decisions or decisions that will impair his future. To complete ourselves, we must speak, express ourselves and relate well with others and God. Since all relationships are dynamic, we must constantly work towards keeping them positive. Hatred comes when we overstep the bounds of each individual's personality or when we feel rejected. Merging-that is, forming close relationships-with others and God should cause us to enhance our personalities, and not to destroy them. When one party in a relationship tries to dominate the other and tries to destroy the other person's individuality, then hatred is the inevitable result. When personalities "merge", they must respect each other's independence and at the same time, feel one with each other. It is difficult to be close and distant at the same time, but that is what a good relationship is all about. It is also very ifficult to maintain a good relation when feelings of resentment and hastart to creep in and are allowed to taover. That is why we find that even infamilies, there are instances when siblings do not talk to each other, or former good friends will not even shhands because of a trivial incident tha pened in the past. In order to be successful in any relationship, each individual's view must be allowed to be expressed. We must be careful not to reject others foolishly, or try to dominate or try todistance ourselves too much from there care for, otherwise their love will turn to hate. Let us all hope and pray that all o relationships will befilled with onlylove and not hate because each of us learnt to respect each other.
DISCLAIMER:
The views expressed in the Article above are Ezekiel Isaac Malekar views and kashmiribhatta.in is not in any way responsible for the opinions expressed in the above article. The article belongs to its respective owner or owners and this site does not claim any right over it.
Courtesy: Ezekiel Isaac Malekar and Speaking Tree,Times of India