Readers' Column- Karmyogis Words of Sanity

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Dear Sir/Madam,

I have been a lover of books, magazine and derive immense pleasure out of its reading. Being a voracious reader I remain preoccupied in the pursuit of searching out hidden treasure, to be able to communicate to the readers through my write up which appear in various Magazines and newspapers. While in the course of reading spell, I passed through an article which appeared in "Martand" under the caption "Marriages then and Now' " written by Sh. Amar Nath Vaishnavi. I found the essay was well thought out and written with the mission to bring a reformative change in the heart of Kashmir Pandits. The message conveyed is loud and clear. Every word of essay carries weight and worth adopting salute and bow my head in complete reverence to float an idea, urgently needed this time when our microscopic community is passing through a phase of turmoil. Crises of identity and existence. His way of explaining is not only simple, but attractive also. when it has been explained pointwise to make it easy to understand.

This is a thought provoking article words of wisdom, heard from a tall personality, who spent his entire  life for the upliftment of the community. His message is loud and clear with no politics but social and economic. It may not digest well to such leaders who may oppose him for purpose of criticism. This message is for those who has the interest of the community and household at stake.

Marriage then carried the blessings of the elders and parents would leave no chance to match it seriously, keeping in consideration all such factors which could cause misunderstanding, strife and tensions. There was no mismatch and the divorce rate in such case was negligible.

The reverse is seen in present day marriages. Such marriages carry no blessings as it emerges out of emotions, love or any other reason. The parents feel helplessness and declare it as fait accompli. Parents have to accept him/her willy-nilly hands down. Such marriages within the community or outside are frowned upon. The divorce rate is such marriages have been on the rise. Inter caste marriages are not liked by the community or outside brethren. They do not add to the pleasure of the community, social sector. It may be of help to the complete economy but socially it distances them from the race they belong. This problem has been seen effective. We are under such a great store that is becoming nearly impossible for us to survive as an ethnic group. Old values have receded. Even the young have gone crazy, self centred and money minded. Old have become arrogant and hypocrites. This is after effect due to sudden and forced exposure to an alien Environment. Social Agenda for social reform, simplifying our marriages, yagnopavit, or post death ceremonies so as to save our tie and money.

 I fully understand that this piece of advice will not digestible to  such souls who believe in lavish expenditure exhibiting their richness. They should understand its multiplied effect in the beleaguered exile in community in distress. Saner souls among the Kashmiri Pandits have realized that they have now to reconstruct their community in a new community members, who matter in the society ponder over ground reality, without any go, do what is the best option to March ahead. Such self styled leaders should shun egoistic mentality, vulpine nature, which have exposed the community.

I bow my head in reverence to such a selfless leader who has a vision followed by innovative strategy. His breaking of marriage into two parts religious part and social part is a wonderful idea conceived. His advice to minimize expenditure  will work his foresight vision that money we have saved is the money much is needed for the welfare of family, child education and for self support in the old age. Those who have enough and to spar can utilize the money for giving exposure to his black money. He has the option to use it anyway, but in secrecy, keeping into consideration the poorer parents who cannot afford lavish spending.

In order to execute this conceived policy for the betterment of the community, we have to rope in youth of the community. They are the wheel of change. Our youngsters can play an instrumental role in bringing a radical change in the mindset of their parents who need counselling. It is only the young blood which can bring a wanted change in the mindset of elders. They have to see in a wider spectrum taking holistic view of the present scenes. I appeal to all think tanks, saner elements policy makers, commoners to seriously ponder over this vital problem which consumes, a major portion of savings, which is otherwise the amount meant for children’s education, a family welfare and not least but least for self-need in the old age.

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Courtesy: The Martand- The Official organ of All State Kashmiri Pandit Conference: 31st August, 2009