It was one thing to make a mistake; it was another thing to keep making it. I knew what happened when you let yourself get close to someone, when you started to believe they liked or loved you: you'd be disappointed. Depend on someone, and you might as well admit you're going to be crushed-because when you really needed them, they wouldn't be there. Either that, or you'd confide in them and you add to their problems. All you ever really had was yourself.

We could only solve our problems y cooperating with other countries   

Democracy is finding proximate solutions to insoluble problems.